What is your Capacity to Learn from and to Accept Reality (CLAR)? Try rating it from one to ten (one (lowest) to ten (highest)). I believe this is the most important parameter in how effective you are in making decisions. It could also be a gauge on how trustworthy you are. I shall call this your CLAR score. More on this later.
Important Note
"Acceptance" is like saying, "Yes, I agree that this is how it is".
This then enables you say, "Now I know how it is - I can now create a
realistic plan on how I want things
to be"